Everyone has a chance to be a hero to someone. You don’t even have to be dead to be a hero. With Memorial Day approaching, it got me to thinking about those in my life that I have looked up to as heroes. Unfortunately, holidays like Memorial Day and funerals seem to be the only times that we really stop and think about the impact that someone had on our lives. These are the times that we remember, or better yet, celebrate their life and their lasting legacy on those that they touched.
As a college basketball coach for nearly 20 years, I had many experiences that I was proud of. But, I also made my share of mistakes, especially early in my career. Now that I have left coaching to work with teams as a leadership trainer and consultant, I look back on my career and offer up five things that I wish I knew when I first started out in coaching.
“The greatest tragedy in life is wasted talent” (Robert DeNiro’s character in “A Bronx Tale”)
He was a collegiate national champion, an All-American football player and the number-6 pick in the NFL.
He dragged his girlfriend down a flight of stairs before smashing her head into a mailbox, he repeatedly displayed a series of destructive behaviors and even killed a man.
He eventually committed suicide in January of 2016 in his prison cell.
He was Lawrence Phillips, one of the greatest collegiate running backs of all-time and one of the greatest tragedies of life.
It is too bad that he wasn’t the last troubled superstar we heard about.
“In every day, there are 1,440 minutes. That means we have 1,440 daily opportunities to make a positive impact.” (Les Brown)
In his book WINNING EVERY DAY, the former Notre Dame football coach, Lou Holtz, tells the story of the Trappist monk who was allowed to say only two words every three years.
After the first three years, he met with Brother Superior and said, “Bad bed!”
Three years later, he came back to say, “Bad food!”
After three more years of silence, the monk said, “No TV!”
Another three years passed. This time, when the monk met with Brother Superior, he handed him his robes and sandals and announced, “I quit!”
Brother Superior said, “Well don’t expect me to try to dissuade you. You’ve done nothing but complain since you got here!”
It was pretty obvious that the monk didn’t add value to his fellow monks or to the atmosphere.
“The ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee and I will pay more for that ability than for any other under the sun.” (John D. Rockefeller)
My brother and I can chat for 30 minutes on the phone and when I hang up, I can’t answer any questions from my wife about my brother’s family or what’s really going on in his life. But, boy can I tell you his opinion on Michigan football or the Detroit Tigers. [Read more…]
“What are you doing? There are cars coming”, said my mother.“Don’t worry mom”, I replied confidently. “Pedestrians have the right of way”.“Yeah and you’ll be DEAD RIGHT”, she retorted.
“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately your own responsibility.” –Eleanor Roosevelt
The decisions we make today goes a long way toward determining our future. Our choices lead to actions and actions lead to consequences. Sometimes good. Sometimes bad.
“I have a dream that my four children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character” (Martin Luther King, Jr.)
It has often been said that sports build character. Sports allow people to learn many lessons. The games themselves, though, don’t necessarily build character. Instead, they reveal character. Just like a test that you might take in school doesn’t build your knowledge base, but it reveals what you already know. The homework that you’ve done or not done is revealed when you take a test. In the same way, what you’ve done in practice and your workouts is revealed during the games. Your habits can make or break you.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” (Mark Twain)
The day was December 12, 2014. I will never forget it. It was my birthday.
My boyfriend said that he had something good planned for me but wouldn’t tell me where we were going. I had nervous anticipation. I was soon to be caught completely off guard.
“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm” (Winston Churchill)
If you are a college student then you’ve come across some tough final exams, papers, and other big assignments that will consume your life. You may think that the world is going to end if you don’t make a certain grade or accomplish a certain goal. Don’t stress! You’re not the only one in that position.
A story is told of a husband and wife sitting at a table at the husband’s high school reunion. He keeps staring at a drunken lady swigging her drink as she sat alone at a nearby table.
Perspective. We all see things differently. Even husbands and wives. Come to think of it . . . especially husbands and wives!
Anyways, moving on . . .